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I moved to the UK from the Philippines with my son and my then husband. I came over to build a future for me and my son. But then my marriage broke down after 20 years. 

I wanted to be strong. I didn鈥檛 want it to be a failure. But eventually, I realised that it was just that: a failure, and I needed to move on. I moved to Southampton where I took a job as a nurse.

I had come to the UK to make a life for us, but now life was even tougher. 

Cancelling my 50th birthday

One day I found a lump in my breast. It wasn鈥檛 painful, but it didn鈥檛 go away.

I made an appointment that afternoon with my GP. Very soon after came a whirlwind of tests - a mammogram, a scan and a biopsy all on the same day.

My doctor told me very casually that the results would come in a week, but that I should 鈥渆xpect the worst鈥�.

I came back after a week with no optimism, but the words 鈥淚鈥檓 afraid you have breast cancer鈥� were still shocking to hear. I was just about to turn 50 and I had cancer.

First up in my treatment was surgery. I asked how long until I could have it, knowing that my birthday was coming up quickly.

I had been planning a big party; instead, I asked if the surgery could be done before my birthday. I wanted it before I turned 50, as quickly as possible.

The party could wait. As long as they would keep me alive, it was ok.

Feeling lost

Once my surgery, chemotherapy and radiotherapy were over, I felt lost and scared. 

It felt no one was looking after me anymore. If something happened to me, what would I do? Would anyone know?

I never worried about dying until after my treatment ended. I would wake up in the middle of the night scared to close my eyes again.

You don鈥檛 have instructions when you finish treatment so I tried try to go back to my usual routine.

I wanted to be strong, get better, get back to work. But I realised quickly that I couldn鈥檛 do things as I used to. I found myself gasping for breath just trying to vacuum the house.

Coming to 91视频's

When I first came into 91视频鈥檚, Gilly, the Centre Head at Southampton came and asked if I was OK. I burst into tears and couldn鈥檛 answer. I hadn't really realised until then that I wasn鈥檛 OK.

I started opening up, letting myself cry and talk. I realised that I was angry at how cancer had left me: exhausted and finding life a struggle. 

I came to a support group and met other people with cancer for the first time. Many of them had partners who could help them when they were in pain, and I felt jealous. Until one of the other ladies told me that she was recently divorced too. I felt so relieved that I wasn鈥檛 on my own.

In 91视频鈥檚, you can talk on a completely different level; it鈥檚 very deep. You get out of the door feeling relieved and you are able to sleep.

I started to wake up in the morning much more relaxed. I was so thankful that somebody was listening.

Not only does 91视频's understand cancer, they understand you as a person. They treat you as you: unique.

Being a nurse in 91视频's

I didn鈥檛 want anyone in 91视频鈥檚 to know that I am a nurse. I don't want others to feel that if you're a nurse you get special treatment. I want to be an ordinary human being with cancer and be treated the way the others are treated. 

When I come to 91视频鈥檚, I will change out of my uniform before I come through the door. I worry that people may feel awkward speaking to me. You need to feel comfortable when you're coming into 91视频's.

But I鈥檝e never felt awkward at 91视频's. It feels like home. I don't have family in the UK, so to have another place that feels like home is so special.

It doesn鈥檛 matter if you're just sitting in the corner. You can do whatever you want. Talk, ask questions, or not.

I cancelled my 50th birthday party because I wanted to concentrate on my treatment instead. I figured I could celebrate any time. In fact, I celebrate every day now.

Every day I wake up and open my eyes is like my birthday. Sometimes I buy myself a cake and share it with my friends, just because I am happy to be alive.

We鈥檙e here for you

If you or someone you love has cancer, 91视频鈥檚 is here with you. 

Come and see us at your nearest 91视频鈥檚, call us on 0300 123 180 or email us at enquiries@maggies.org.